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Weekly Halo-Scopes for May 10 – 16, 2015 as originally published by e-Know

Heart of the Reading:

Ace of Earth

What excites you? Have you been mulling over a new business idea? Or perhaps you have come up with a great new invention that’s the next best thing to buttered toast. Whatever has been tickling your fancy, exciting your imagination and keeping you awake with possibilities, is the answer you have been looking for.   The Ace of Earth says this is it! You will be aptly and generously supported in this undertaking, whatever it may be.

Our Challenge this week:

Four of Air

So you are excited? That’s great. But the challenge we are facing it so slow down and consider the possibilities before jumping into anything. Rest, relax… take a staycation or even, I don’t know… MEDITATE. Then see what answers come to you. You have the right idea. Now you need to figure out which way takes you from here to there. Your inner wisdom will not steer you wrong and the way to access that wisdom is to get quiet. (perhaps try MEDITATION)

Our Helper is:

Unity

We are all in this thing called life, together. Unity reminds us that we don’t have to do everything by ourselves. There are friends, coworkers, associates and family members who would love to lend us a hand. This week is a good time to ask for help. And if you feel like you might be too independent, that you hate to bother, or you don’t need help? Ask anyways. We all love to be helpful, so why not give someone the unique gift of lending you a hand?

This Weekly Halo-Scope was inspired by The Angel Tarot Cards by Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine

Want a personal reading?  Email me at pastlifetourist@gmail.com and we will plan our Angel party, either in person or via Skype.

 

Enjoying the Contrast?

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Your Halo-Scopes for the Week of May 3 – 9, 2015 as originally posted on e-Know

At the Heart of this week’s reading:

3 of Michael

There is a saying that time wounds all heals… er… I mean time heals all wounds. This week we are guided to release judgment about the past and let go of any resentments or bitterness we may be holding onto. Remember that we are all human and we all make mistakes. What’s done is done and it is time to stop berating people (ourselves included) for events gone by. Let bygones be bygone. We are learning life’s important lessons and when we know better we do better.

Helping us is:

4 of Michael

Forgive me for what I said when I was hungry and tired. When life is busy and small stresses show up it is so much easier to handle them when we have had enough to eat and are rested. Taking care of ourselves is going to be essential during this emotional week. Old hurts show up to taunt us and we need to fortify ourselves so that our buttons can’t be pushed. It is so much easier not to sweat the small stuff when we’ve had a good night’s sleep and a healthy breakfast. Bonus points for taking the time to meditate. (And keep in mind: it’s all small stuff).

And our Challenger comes to us as:

6 of Gabriel:

We are doing the best that we can. During challenging times we can tend to beat ourselves up. Take a moment to remember that we are really 50 shades of awesome and that a few little hiccups should have no power over us. We must be kind and gentle with ourselves and with others, celebrate all of the steps we’ve taken and lessons we’ve learned, and be happy for all of the crazy ups and downs in life. Contrast is part of this earth school and learning to enjoy the contrast is just another lesson we are here to learn.

This week’s Halo-Scopes were inspired by the Archangel Power Tarot Deck by Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine.

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The Opposite of Faith

 

Photo by My American Husband, Walt Babinski
Photo by My American Husband, Walt Babinski

“The opposite of faith is not doubt: It is certainty. It is madness. You can tell you have created God in your own image when it turns out that he or she hates all the same people you do.”  Anne Lamott

 

5 Great Reasons to Smile

Em 'n' Me
Em ‘n’ Me

I used to have this pet peeve. It drove me a bit nuts, actually. I’d be walking along, not really thinking about anything good or bad. I assumed my face was set to neutral, when some well-meaning passerby would tell me to “Smile!” For a very long time, if that happened I would allow it to ruin my whole day. Mostly because as soon as they would command it of me, I would find myself smiling at them like some sort of trained monkey.

And then I would walk away, scowling. Don’t tell me to smile. I’ll smile when I want to smile, not when you tell me to smile.

And then I would get paranoid. Was I scowling? Did I look so wretched that a perfect stranger was compelled to tell me to change what I thought was a pleasantly neutral expression into a more socially acceptable one?

And then I would get righteous. Why should I change my expression for your amusement? I was not put on this earth to please you!!!

And then, finally, I would just get frustrated with myself for spending so much time and energy chasing around an insignificant and unimportant pet peeve.

Times have changed and I don`t let little things like that push my buttons nearly as often as they used to. Of course I am not opposed to smiling, but until recently I have not put much effort into smiling more than I`ve felt moved to.

But then I did some research. Thanks Google!

Did you know that smiling, whether you mean it or not, is an important part of maintaining good health?   Even when you fake it, the physiological benefits can`t be denied. In recent studies it has been shown that:

  1. Smiling reduces stress. The simple act of plastering a smile on your face is enough to stop that overactive amygdala from juicing up the fight or flight response. Smiling wide so that it reaches your eyes has the effect of triggering a calming response in the autonomic nervous system.
  2. Smiling helps to lower blood pressure. Makes sense I suppose. If you are lowering stress, then the blood pressure is likely to follow. Many studies have shown that biorhythmic feedback and mindfulness meditation are both excellent at lowering blood pressure to more healthful levels, and now we can add smiling to that non-pharmaceutical bunch.
  3. Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin in the brain. You know those feel-good chemicals that bring on things like the rumored `runner`s high`? These chemicals, when released in our brains, bring us a feeling of wellness and overall happiness. Couldn`t we all use a little more of that?
  4. Smiling gives our immune system a boost. So during cold and flu season don`t just wash your hands and take your Vitamins… get your smile on.
  5. Smiling is one of the leading causes of mood improvement. Not only will it elevate your own mood, it is contagious, spreading good moodiness to those you bestow your pearly whites upon. Smile and the whole world smiles with you? True Science Fact.

So the next time somebody tells me to `Smile` I will do that very thing, thanking them for caring enough about my good health and wellness to give me such sound advice. And better still, I will make a practice of wearing the wide eyed grin as often as possible. By smiling for no good reason, those same `helpful` people might stop wondering what is making me glum and start worrying what I am up to instead.

And that really will give me reason to smile.

 

 

“I never smile if I can help it. Showing one’s teeth is a submission signal in primates. When someone smiles at me, all I see is a chimpanzee begging for its life.”  Dwight Shrute

The Garden Gate

The Secret Garden by Emla, Deviant Art
The Secret Garden by Emla, Deviant Art

“The garden of the world has no limits, except in your mind.” Rumi

When it comes to motivation and following my purpose I have found that the biggest obstacle in my path had nearly always been Me.  Myself.  You’d think I’d be my best supporter, greatest cheerleader, biggest fan, but no.  I have been my loudest naysayer, setting up traps and making sure I trip, fall, or avoid the path completely.  What is up with Me?  Don’t I know that I will be the biggest benefactor if my dreams come true?  Sheesh, Self.  What is your problem?

Then, a few months back I saw Steven Pressfield on Super Soul Sunday with Oprah.  He was talking about his book The War Of Art and how resistance and self loathing are actually good things.

Wait… what?

“The dream arises in our psyche (even if we deny it, even if we fail to or refuse to recognize it) like a tree ascending into the sunshine. Simultaneously the dream’s shadow appears—i.e., Resistance—just as a physical tree casts a physical shadow.

That’s a law of nature.

Where there is a Dream, there is Resistance.

Thus: where we encounter Resistance, somewhere nearby is a Dream.” Steven Pressfield (very cool article.  You can read the rest of it here)

To consider that Resistance is actually a law of nature, like gravity, or attraction, was hugely liberating for me.  Suddenly I could see clearly all of the ways that Resistance insinuated itself into my life.  It was the same old song, ever time.

The Rise and Fall of the Beautiful Dream

Sudden inspiration leads to HUGE excitement, plan making, visions of euphoria.  That would typically last for a day, maybe two.  I would even get busy making lists and drawing up plans and telling my American Husband all about it.  “I have this amazing THING I am going to do!!” and he would get excited too.

But then.

This will never work.  How can I possibly find anyone to help with this?  And how can I afford it?  Besides, who would listen to me about anything?  I am a nobody.  What do I have to offer the world?  Who am I to set myself up as teacher/leader/guide in anything?

But hey, I’ve dealt with the nagging voice of my own self doubt for my whole incarnation, so I know how to muscle through.  So the next step is to soldier on despite the doubts.  Let’s say, for instance, the Dream is that I will write a book, perhaps about Past Lives for instance. Hypothetically speaking of course.

I decide I will sit down and write, despite the cacophony of self loathing that is singing in my head.  Here’s what happens next.

I sit down to write.  But wait, I have to pee.  So I get up to pee and on my way back I remember that I should take something out of the freezer for supper, so I grab a package of chicken and set it to thaw on the counter.  Hey, maybe I’ll make that yummy lemon chicken we had at Mom’s last month.  I better call her for the recipe.  Beep beep beep, dialing, “Hello Mom, how are you?…”  Twenty minutes later with recipe in hand I realize that we need a few ingredients, so I suit up and head over to the grocery store.  By the time I get back I see that it is lunchtime, so I make some soup, and while I am eating I figure I might as well catch up on my Downton Abbey viewing, so on goes the Netflix.  Part way through my 3rd episode I look down at the laptop, just sitting there on the table, mocking me.  I reach over and close it, trying to ignore the niggling guilt.  I can’t write now, I don’t have time, I justify to myself.  Finishing the episode I jump up and start prepping supper.  So I didn’t write today?  So what.  Nothing will ever come of it anyways.

Debbie Downer get out of my head.

When I watched Steven Pressfield talk about Resistance and describing it as a real, tangible thing, I had a great big Oprah A-HA moment.  If Resistance was a thing, then I could find away around it.  But how?

First I tried to identify how Resistance wages war on me.  I came up with the Big 3.  They are, in no particular order:

1.  Procrastination.  This weapon of mass destruction has lobbed it’s poison at me more than any other.  I will do it tomorrow, after this, once that happens, soon…. Putting my Beautiful Dream off forever into the unreachable future more times than I can count.

2.  Getting busy.  I am an expert at over-scheduling myself.  I fill my days and nights with so many tasks that I just never seem to have time to follow my Beautiful Dream. “Beware the barrenness of the busy life”, says Socrates.  I hear you, Bro.

3.  Self Loathing.  That inner bitch just keeps letting me know I am never going to be good enough, smart enough or gosh darn it, likeable enough. She has been trying to come between me and my Beautiful Dream my whole life.

To set up a viable defense against these three weapons of Resistance, I had to plan my counter-attack.  My line of defense is pretty simple, actually, and so far has worked miracles for me.

I began by making a concerted effort to recognize Resistance as it crept up in its many forms.  Once recognized I would say, “I see you, Resistance!” and then I would imagine that Resistance took the form of a giant bubble, blocking me from my Big Dream.  Huge and unwieldy I would see it there, as a tangible “thing”.  And then I would huff, and I would puff and I would blow it away.

Easy as pie.  Bubbles have no defense against a good gust of air.

This simple tool has not ended the war with Resistance.  With each new day comes new weapons and tools aimed at stopping me from moving toward my Beautiful Dream, and each day I must be aware, fortify myself and blow those bubbles away.  At times I forget and end up stalling.  Sometimes I stall for months at a time, but eventually I remember.

Resistance I am done.   It’s not me, it’s you.  The beauty of my Dream is calling and I intend to heed her siren song.

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“Resistance is always lying and always full of shit.”   Steven Pressfield

Facebook: Friend or Foe?

Facebook: Friend or Foe? – pieces of me.

Oh Facebook, you soul sucking monster, how I have missed you.  Well maybe that is a bit of an overstatement.  I have missed the sense of community that you offer.  I have missed hearing about what my friends and relatives are up to in their lives.  And I miss hearing about world events, because as difficult as this is to admit, Facebook is where I get my news.   Crazy but true.  (The real news is just far too depressing, you see).