We all want what we want when we want it. We don’t want to wait and we don’t want to settle. So why is it, when we all have this handy dandy Law of Attraction at our disposal, that we seem to get ourselves into situations that surprise us with their level of suckiness?
How do these bad things happen to us? We are nice people! We are spiritually enlightened, dammit! And we’ve read all of the books!
And yet, we still manage to paint ourselves into some tricky corners with our manifesting. We use our visualizations and intentions to create these situations for ourselves and what we had hoped would bring the keys to our kingdom brings the keys to our prison cell instead. And those keys to our freedom are just ever so slightly out of reach.
So how do we get ourselves back on track? What is the way to freedom?
Funny, I asked myself that very question this morning. Here’s the answer that came to me in what I can only describe as a rush if divine inspiration that had me trying to type with one hand while struggling into a pair of tights with the other. Wouldn’t want to be late for my dream job now, would I? (does this font make me look sarcastic?)
1.) The Key to Clear Intention
Getting really clear about what you want is a bit tricky. See, it’s important to separate the thing from the feeling that you are seeking in the having of the thing. For instance, if you want to get yourself a new job, instead of doing this:
I want to work at Ain’t It Great To Be Alive boutique, because it will be way more fun, fulfilling and people are nicer there.
Try this instead:
· I want a new job because this job is not fulfilling and my boss is an ass-hat.
· I want a new job that lets me be more creative
· I want a new job that is more fun
· I want to have more freedom
· I want to be as excited waking up on Monday morning as I am waking up on Saturday. I want every day to feel as full of promise as the weekend does.
Boil it down to what feeling you are seeking, then set your intention around that.
I intend to have a job that brings as much excitement and promise to each work day as I feel on my weekends.
Wow, now doesn’t that sound better? Because what if you put all of your manifesting mojo into getting the job at Ain’t It Great To Be Alive boutique, only to find that it is the 10th level of hell and the people who work there are soul sucking minions who have pink hair and wear way too much perfume? Because that can happen. Trust me on this one.
Boil it down. Let go of the attachment to details so that you can clearly identify the feeling experience you are hoping to manifest, and then set your intention on that. The details are far better left to the Experts.
<Looks pointedly at the sky. Receives celestial thumbs up> Phew!
2.) The Key to Appreciation
The weather outside is dark and gloomy. We drive to work in the dark, go home in the dark, and in between we work in small, fluorescent caves while people all around go about their business, all the while singing “Look down, look down, don’t look him in the eye…” Winter has been here for at least 18 months, and there are still two months to go. We long to see something green, or hear a bird sing.
And now we are supposed to find stuff to appreciate? How? Sure it’s easy to be grateful when things are great. It’s when we are stuck in that proverbial corner that we really need to amp up the appreciation. We need to dig deep people. We can do this thing.
Here. I’ll start.
· Okay. The sunrise was really red and pretty this morning, way off in the distance. Kind of made me feel hopeful. I appreciate the beauty of that moment.
Hmm. What else? This shouldn’t be so difficult, should it? I must be seeing things through wintery goggles. When all else fails I turn to food, for which I am unapologetically passionate.
· The Hot Mess Pasta from the Pedal And Tap Restaurant was fantastic last night… and there are leftovers in the fridge for lunch. Yes! Appreciate!!
· I found Zevia in our local big box store for 3.99 a six pack. Cheap and healthy soda? Yes! Appreciate!!
· I just found a peanut butter cup chocolate bar (FULL SIZED) that I had hidden in my desk a few weeks ago. Oh YES!! APPRECIATE!!!
· And Friday is only three days away. Fridays is donut day. Mmmmm Appreciate.
The times when it is most challenging to find those things to appreciate are the times when it is most important that we do. There is no other way out of that prison. We can whine and complain, berate and bitch all we want, and while that can feel really, really (extremely) satisfying in the moment, it will do nothing but reinforce our cage bars.
Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. Then do it a bit more. Fake it until we make it if we need to. And remember, chocolate always helps. So does wine.
3.) The Key to Letting Go.
Forgive me in advance for the earworm I am about to gift many of you. But our next step is simply:
Let it go.
Let it go.
Every shred of doubt, every fear, every need to control the outcome, every compulsion to ask over and over and over again for the same thing, every belief we hold that tells us we need to deserve it, every block we have to receiving and even every wistful hope and dream that feels right, but that keeps the key just out of our reach. All of it. Let. It. Go.
Our job now is to trust that the Universe will provide. It will all happen in the perfect way and at the perfect time. Nothing that we can plan will come close to the magnificence that the Divine has in store for us. And all we need to do? That’s right. Let it go.
Catchy little tune, isn’t it?
A fully abundant life is the stuff that dreams are made of. Whatever that looks like for you, it is my hope and prayer that you find it. And just to be on the safe side, remember that it never hurts to add these few magic words to any intention you make:
This or something better in accordance with the highest good for all.
And so it is.
<Looks skyward. Celestial high fives all around.>